Pictures of Us

I haven't posted pictures for a little while, but I just discovered it's probably because we haven't been taking many pictures lately.  Weird.  I guess we'll try to do some more exciting things so we'll feel inspired to get the camera out more :).  Anyway, here's a little tiny update about nothing in particular.

This was one of my favorite Valentine's Day (15th Anniversary!) surprises--Jeff had his fraternity brothers serenade me Billy Joel's song, "For the Longest Time."  They sounded awesome, I enjoyed it so much!

Here's Shark's model of a cell and all of its innards.  He used candy as his medium (in jello--we put it in the freezer to make it stay solid until it got to school). 

Didi at Pizza Hut.  I love that my kids are still young enough to enjoy the kiddie place mats and crayons at the restaurants.  They're growing so big though!

Here's Goldie with her "Who hair" for Dr. Seuss Day at school.  We couldn't believe it when we were searching and saw  THIS picture of her twin with the same shirt online, so we had to copy her hair. 

I loved being a surprise volunteer Dr. Seuss reader in Tootie's kindergarten class!

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Lastly, I wanted to share with you Didi's exciting news:  She won a poetry contest!!  It was run through the public library here, and there were over a hundred entries.  She was one of 10 winners in her age group.  She will get to read her poem at a reception held in honor of the winners.  We're so proud of her for her ambitions and for developing her talents!

I LOVE TO READ, by Didi Lovell  (6th grade)

I love to read.
That's all there is to it.
It relaxes my life.
I just have to do it!

My escape rope,
is a book.
In a special corner,
my book nook.

Escaping to jungles,
or faraway lands.
Meeting dragons,
or the perfect man.

Reading is helpful,
in everyday life.
I relate to a book,
to avoid strife.

I read nonfiction.
Mystery too!
Fantasy is my favorite.
Tragedies are too blue.

Why shouldn't you read?
Because of dirty hands?
That's no reason not to,
considering all the magical lands!

So you should start reading.
Find a book nook.
You might love it like me!
Why don't you look?

Positive Affirmations

The Orange Rhino group gave me this challenge for Day 10 of my "30 Days to Yelling Less" Challenge:

Day #10's assignment:  Surround yourself with positive reinforcement.  Share your positive affirmations with others.  All day tell yourself positive affirmations:  "I believe I can change.  I know I can do this.  I have the strength to change.  I can use a calm voice."

Here is the post I shared on the group blog:

I too really like Mason’s affirmation, “Inhale: Love is patient. Exhale: Love is kind.” I will try to remember to say that one. Sometimes I feel like I don’t get to pick what sticks in my brain though, and so I just have to go with what sticks–for me, I have an affirmation that is working really well lately. It’s this:

“I don’t yell anymore.”

Another one that has been really motivating for me is one that was suggested in a recent email or post. It’s this one:

“They’re just kids. And I love them.”

It reminds me of a time when I was caught complaining about some people that I associated with–I was bringing up their flaws and criticizing them for being less than perfect. My friend kindly replied to me in their defense, “They’re just people.” I thought that was an awesome sentiment, and a great reason to always give people the benefit of the doubt, rather than kicking them while they’re down. So, thanks for reminding me that forgiveness is a GREAT GREAT thing.

Orange Rhino

 I have discovered a support group for parents that is changing my home for the better.  I'm pretty excited about the changes, so I feel impressed to share, even though it means exposing to the world one of my weaknesses.  I hope there is someone out there that can benefit from my experience. 

These are the bracelets my daughter and I made to remind us to not yell. 

I'm talking about the Orange Rhino group that I discovered, which was started by a mom of four kids who desired to find a way to yell less. 

Here is the story I posted on the Orange Rhino blog in response to the question:  "Describe the incident or moment when you realized you wanted to change."

About a week ago, it was past bedtime.  It was going on 9:30, and we like to have all the kids in their rooms by 8:30.  The little ones were in bed, and the teenager was on the couch doing homework.  I wasn't on his case about it, because he had just come home from an evening church activity.  Yes, he should have had his homework done before going to that, but whatever (motivating the kids to do what they're supposed to when they're supposed to is the challenge of my current existence, and I deal with that only a little at a time, as much as I can).  As it was supposed to be "me" time now, I was working on a project on the computer, and I had very little tolerance for interruptions...less than I would have had if it had been prior to bedtime at least.  He started demanding my attention and my services as "mom the helper".  I helped a little, but not how he wanted.  He kept demanding, I kept refusing.  Then he got disrespectful, and I snapped.  I went from annoyed to frustrated to ANGRY, and I started yelling at the top of my voice.  Dad was upstairs, so in part I was trying to get his attention and wanting him to come intervene.  But I was yelling like a crazy person, and my son was just looking at me like I was wacko.  He started grinning, like I was entertainingly funny with how much I had lost it.  Which of course made me more angry.  I yelled as hard as I could, and it hurt my throat.  I hate that.  I knew I wasn't "winning" anything, I wasn't accomplishing anything, and I wasn't fixing anything.  I knew I was only hurting and embarrassing myself.  I knew it, but I didn't wish to change IN THAT MOMENT.  I wanted to change "tomorrow".  After we had both gone to bed, by my husband's suggestion, I reluctantly went down to tell my son that I knew I had made a mistake, I was sorry, and that I loved him.  He wasn't very receptive, didn't say anything back (just stared straight ahead as I spoke to him, not looking at me).  The next morning, neither of us felt like talking to each other.  Well, in that blow-out day's "tomorrow", I stumbled upon the Orange Rhino challenge, and I believe I was led there by divine intervention.  Or fate, or coincidence, whatever--but I was super excited and grateful for the happenstance.  I am so excited to never have to succumb to that kind of embarrassment and pointless ridiculous behavior anymore.  I will have better choices than yelling available in my brain, and I will choose them.  Can't wait.
So anyway...I found this group just by chance on facebook JUST at the PERFECT time for me.  I was so excited :). 

One thing I love about the group is the expectations are super realistic, and no one is asking me to be perfect right away, or ever.  It's just basically a support group for people who want to yell LESS. 

The leader of the group, a mother of four who started it just over a year ago, wanted to see if she could go 365 days without yelling, and she did!  She is funny and cool to me because she likes to talk now about all of the times she gets super close to yelling, but then chooses not to :).  She's very inspirational. 

She has a 30-day challenge that I joined just in the nick of time (I mean, because she closed "registration" right after I joined (free registration, of course)).  I'm one week into it, and I feel SOOOO much better!!!  I really do yell so super much less--almost not at all now.  It's like a miracle.  I haven't changed my whole house yet, but I've felt a big change in myself.

The cool thing about this 30-day challenge is it isn't just "DON'T YELL FOR 30 DAYS...GO!!!".  It's actually 10 days of PREPARING to yell less (she sends us motivational emails, and helps us recognize our triggers, and helps us find our own alternative ways to improve on how we handled certain situations...we actually track our yelling incidents and then think how we could have done it better), and then 20 days of yelling less, with support from others on the blog and from the group.  We are encouraged to share our successes and our struggles on the blog--which is private to this challenge group.  It has been so cool to read other people's stories, and everyone on the group is just TRYING, not being perfect.  So, anyone would fit right in :)!!

If you would like to give it a shot, I would be happy to start my own little private group with you--I mean, I could send on to you the emails that she is sending me.  I could even share the password to the blog if you'd like to see what others have shared (I'm sure she wouldn't mind, as long as you don't tell her that I let you sneak in ;)...). 

But if you aren't interested in joining a 30-day challenge, no problem :)!  You could still just go to the facebook page "Orange Rhino" and like their page, and see the cool motivational stuff she puts on there every day.  I would recommend it! 

It's been the happiest change to happen to me since I went to counseling :). 

Let me know what you think, okay?

2012 Lovell Family Christmas Letter

 

Dearest Loved Ones,                                                               Christmas 2012

I missed sending out Christmas cards last year, so I wanted to give you a quick family update of the last two years. 

In August 2011, we moved across the country!  (Yes, again.)  Lest ye fear we are making a habit of this, we believe we are finally in a place where we can allow our roots to grow.  We moved from Eugene, Oregon to Myerstown, Pennsylvania, so that Jeff could begin his new job at Lebanon Valley College as a full-time bona fide real life we-finally-made-it!- Music Theory Professor. We can’t begin to express how grateful we are that he was selected for this position. He loves his job!  He has about 120ish students, and loves making a difference in their music lives.  He also loves the other faculty members.  We would be happy to stay here for a very long time.

We did leave Oregon before Jeff’s doctoral studies there were complete, but as of October 2012, we’ve got that in the bag, too.  Hallelujah!!!  We plan to travel back West in June so that we can participate in his graduation ceremony, and will hopefully get to see all of our family members along the way.

All of us have been so happy living in PA.  We love the new country scenery and the Pennsylvania Dutch culture.  We love the people here, and the kids are thriving in their new school environment.  The church is strong, even though our ward boundaries are huge.  All in all, we feel like we fit here very comfortably.

Tate, now 5, started kindergarten this year.  His school is right in our back yard.  He is our most physically active child, so you will often find him showing off his new ninja moves, or showing you how fast he runs or how hard he can punch.  Stay on your guard, and you’ll be fine—but be warned, he has been known to tackle people almost to the ground with his hugs when they’re not looking (which he gives to everyone in his path, especially at school and at church).

Audrey, 9, is in 3rd grade.  She comes home from school happy every day.  She sings around the house, and loves to spend her free time playing with friends, working on art projects, and writing stories.  She practices the piano well and appreciates still having her mom as her teacher.  She is a great big and little sister—she helps Tate with his reading, and loves to play games and work on projects with Dana and Clark. We love her frequent smiles and sincere kindness.

Dana, 11, is developing new talents all of the time.  She has discovered her love for writing this year, and met her goal of writing a whole book during the month of November!  Along with her brother Clark, she is participating in the school choir and both of the school bands.  She is doing well on the saxophone, but prefers and is excelling on the piano.  She hopes to start voice lessons soon, and loves to sing with Mom in the ward and stake choirs (she sang her first Messiah selections this Christmas!).  She also got a solo singing as “Kaa” in her school musical of The Jungle Book, which was fabulous! She has a great group of friends at school and is enjoying life.

Clark, just turned 13 this month (!!), is a very busy guy.  He has been taking care of a once-a-week paper route for a year now, and loves having a little spending money.  He started with the 7^th grade football team at the beginning of this year, but an ankle injury during the first week put an end to that career path for now.  He’s currently on a basketball team, and recently said “football is my favorite sport to watch, basketball is my favorite sport to play.”  Clark also LOVES playing the trumpet and is showing a lot of promise thanks to all of his hard work.  This fall he was inducted into the Music Honor’s Society. 

I, Jenna, have also enjoyed discovering new pleasures this past year.  I had never envisioned becoming a real author, but I am currently writing my first book, a personal memoir. I love everything about the process.  I’ll let you know when it’s finished!  Still stamping, still singing—my SU! business is picking up finally here in PA, and this Christmas brought me my favorite solo Messiah performance opportunities thus far.  I’m enjoying my extra quiet time now that all of the kids are in school (what mom doesn’t love quiet time?), but am planning to fill a little more of it with some work-from-home hours in the coming year (one job application is in the works), including adding some more private music students.  My life is full, and perfect.

Merry Christmas to everyone!  Please know how much we love and cherish you.  We sure hope you’lll keep in touch!

                                                Love,

                                                            The Lovells

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Groove Blues and Maple Leaf Rag

In case you didn't get to see either of these clips when I posted them before...here are our budding musicians Didi and Shark on their instruments of choice!  We love hearing them practice and make such good progress, leading them to songs that they master such as these.  

JennaDidiGoldie&Jazz Amazing Grace

We sang this in church today, and recorded our last run-through before the meeting here :).  We were so proud of our girls, singing solos in front of the whole ward like this for their first time :)!

It's About Time We Got Some New Family Pics

These photos were taken just over a mile from our home.  This is the historic home of the person who founded our town a couple of hundred years ago or so.  We missed the tour last time it was open, but I look forward to going inside soon and seeing how awesome it is.  I love this type of architecture : ).

Just for fun : ).  Sometimes it's important to "unfreeze"your smiles for a moment during a photo shoot, especially when your face is literally frozen from the cold outside.  It was a freezing cold windy day.  We're so lucky the kids lasted as long as they did!

I hope these guys can be best friends someday : ).  Their 8-year age difference seems to be a bit of a barrier for bff-dom still, but at least they're beginning to enjoy throwing the football together now : ).

Two opposites in many ways, but both have golden hearts.  Sisters are so much fun!

Tootie-5 years old

Goldie-9 years old

Shark-will be a teenager next month!!

Didi-11 years old

(Jazz--hot stuff!)

me

Sorry for posting extra pictures of myself...I had a few extras taken so I can maybe use one as my "author picture" in my book : ).   I think this one is my favorite for the book.  You like?  (Hey Lindsay--I'm loving getting to use the gorgeous scarf again that you made for me last year!)

I just wanted to include this one just because I love this coat.  It's my world's best winter coat ever.  I got it for $1 at a yard sale about 10 years ago, and it's the warmest best comfortablest coat anywhere.  It was cheap 'cause it had a broken zipper, but an awesome friend of mine had his zipper expert friend give me a new one 2 years ago, so now it's even more awesome.  Plus, I think it's pretty.  Probably TMI, but there you have it.

I LOVE THIS MAN!  He's my best friend, and he's Mr. Super Wonderful.  I'm so lucky to have him!!!